Harm and dependence on social networks for dating and communication. What can you find in Odnoklassniki? Psychology of Social Networks
On RuNet, many users wondered: “Is it worth starting virtual dating? Will they be beneficial, will they be effective? Or maybe virtual communication“Is this even evil?” Today, almost every third inhabitant of the planet has own account on social networks, a lot of virtual friends and subscribers.
But not everyone can boast of the effectiveness of their communication in in social networks. Some choose the wrong network that they need, but sit on the old one out of habit, others are lazy to study the interface’s capabilities, others communicate simply out of boredom, and still others simply do not trust social networks. As a result, time spent in front of monitor screens is wasted. What to do?
How to communicate successfully on Twitter?
Brevity is the soul of wit. Thanks to Twitter, you can learn to express your thoughts clearly and concisely, because messages are limited to 140 characters in length.
You can follow the news, new projects, track the mood of your friends, publish your news and share it with others.
You should always remember about your readers (“followers”). If you don’t know what to write, it’s better not to write anything. Don't clutter your friends feed.
You can ask questions to senior comrades, experts in a particular field. Follow celebrity news.
Be confident in your tweets. Even if you're new to Twitter but have a good understanding of a particular industry, present yourself to readers with dignity.
How to communicate successfully on Facebook?
Whether you want to grow personally or just connect, you can use Facebook to:
Facebook in Russia has a fairly mature and intelligent audience. Here you can find new friends, communicate with a lot of interesting, famous people that have an impact on modern media and culture. Here you can easily argue in the comments with an authoritative expert and chat with friends in personal messages.
You can practice language by making friends with foreigners.
Realize yourself in creativity: show your work, get ratings in the form of likes, find like-minded people, present your ideas.
Register under your real name. This will make it easier for you to find friends, and easier for friends to find you.
Be polite. Rude comments and disrespectful behavior may result in your account being blocked if there are complaints from other users. Do not become friends with those whom you do not know at least indirectly. real life, or if you are at least not united mutual friends. In general, value your reputation.
Be interesting and helpful. This is not the place for the “Standing in a Traffic Jam” genre. Here, messages with at least some minimal benefit and concern for friends are more appropriate, for example: “I stood in a traffic jam on Yaseneva for an hour. Friends, it’s better to drive around Borisovsky Proezd.”
Don't be intrusive or negative. It’s better to add posts and photos every day, but a little at a time, not 10 a day. Posts (messages on your wall) about your sadness and sadness, in general, are not needed by anyone and will not be popular; no one likes whiners. Posts about your victory over the blues, where you have a glass of cider and a bucket of strawberries, will appeal to your friends more. It’s better to share your sadness with friends in person or over the phone, rather than in public.
For those who want to use Facebook for personal gain:
How to communicate successfully on Instagram?
- WITH using Instagram You can show yourself as a connoisseur of beauty and a creative person. You can create interesting and unique photos: edit them, add various special effects, filters, change the background, crop, focus on a specific detail. Try to show the world not a simple image, but an emotion in the “I am here and now, and it’s beautiful here!” mode. Of course, posting photos taken a little earlier is also not prohibited.
Do not overuse delayed posts. For example, if you were on vacation and post one photo a day, users will get the impression that your vacation was clearly extended.
Do not write long captions under photos, because Instagram is a project of photographs, not prose. Don't use too many hashtags (tags with a # sign) - this will irritate readers. There is no need to list everything you see in the picture.
Publish photos that may interest your subscribers, that really touch you personally. Photos taken out of boredom in the genre “Here I am standing in a traffic jam” are bad manners.
If you are selling something, do not force your products on people. Instagram is a means for sharing personal photos, but if you advertise, or even worse, push your product, you will be treated as a seller, and not as a full-fledged participant.
Always remain sincere. If you want to show the world something beautiful, do it! If there is no beauty, remain silent.
Having a good camera in your smartphone or camera will be very helpful.
What's good about VKontakte?
VKontakte is also called a lightweight copy of Facebook, so the rules social life here are approximately the same as for Facebook. Only the majority of network users are residents of the CIS, and younger than those who use Facebook. Many schoolchildren and students live here. On VKontakte you can also express yourself, create groups, fan pages, acquire subscribers, and monitor your news feed.
The most strong point networks are an opportunity to upload your own music, videos, and use files that have been uploaded by other users. It’s not for nothing that VKontakte is also called the largest media archive on the Runet.
What can you find in Odnoklassniki?
Odnoklassniki is best suited for communication on everyday and personal topics. As practice shows, users communicate less in groups and most often prefer private messages (personal messages, chat). With the help of Odnoklassniki, you can find your friends with whom you were once friends, you can feel nostalgic, meet in reality, or even change your destiny. What if your first love is still dreaming about you?
Unfortunately, it is precisely because of these illusions that Odnoklassniki is considered a social network for flirting and cheating. After all, some who have found their school sweetheart really want to experience some exciting emotions again or at least flirt. On the other hand, this is an ideal social network for those who are lonely, have lost some old connections with friends and want to restore them.
General rules for successful communication on social networks
1. Literacy: “Take all my mistakes as smiles” When filling out your profile, publishing your articles, responding to messages, try to write correctly. If you don’t know how to spell a particular word, check it on the corresponding sites (gramota.ru) or in Word. Illiterate correspondence has never made anyone happy.
2. Politeness. Always and in all situations, do not lose face, be polite and tolerant. Forget about obscene language, do not indulge in all sorts of provocations - “don’t feed the trolls.” If your readers ask you questions, don't forget to answer them.
4. Self-control and acceptance of criticism. Learn to restrain yourself and not get worked up over trifles. If you encounter criticism, be able to accept it, if it is, of course, justified.
5. “No” – unverified information! Do not publish unverified information on your pages or in groups. Of course, everyone has the right to make mistakes. But if this is repeated systematically, you will quickly lose the trust of your readers.
6. Use more verbs. It has been found that verbs increase the effectiveness of messages because they make the message more vivid and easier to understand (the study was conducted by the social network Twitter).
If it's mentally difficult for you, you shouldn't do it either. public domain. Why? This is of little interest to third-party users; the most they can do is express sympathy. It’s better to turn to your best friends, parents or psychologist. Such assistance will be more effective.
By the way, it is worth noting that the more negative, pessimistic information a user writes on his blog, the faster he loses readers. C'est la vie...
8. Don’t post it on social media. compromising photos. Both yours and your friends. Protect yourself and them from unnecessary gossip and other troubles. So that later you don’t have to wonder why you weren’t hired, and for some reason the entire female half of the work team is making fun of your friend.
9. Refrain from being frank with a person you don’t know well. For example, there are known cases when collectors entered into correspondence with users hiding under a fictitious name. We received a phone number and made an appointment. The outcome of the matter is clear.
Social networks are an important and relevant issue today. IN Lately It is this type of site that is most widespread both in the West and here in Russia. The results of numerous studies indicate that social networks have already reached more than half of all Internet users. In Russia, this figure is still lower than the world figure, but it is growing rapidly.
Social networks have their own positive sides, and negative. So, on the one hand, they turn out to be an invaluable assistant in finding your old acquaintances and friends, in maintaining relationships with them, despite the distance and busyness. In addition, social networks are a valuable tool in the job search process of modern people.
On the other hand, recently scientists have become seriously concerned about how much time is spent modern man while on social networks, raising the question of a possible mental disorder - psychological dependence on social networks.
Social networks are the main reason why people are spending more and more time on the Internet. The famous psychologist Evgeny Anatolyevich Polyakov confidently states that social networks have grown from the category of entertainment into a real psychological addiction. “Instead of official duties, employees spend their time “looking for friends” and viewing new messages, which in turn negatively affects not only the employee’s productivity, but also the person’s psychological state. Torn between work and virtual communication, people become stressed , which in turn affects physical health."
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Public speech at the regional stage of the competition “Teacher of the Year – 2015” “Problems of communication in social networks”
The twenty-first century is considered a century high technology. This century brings to a completely different level of development modern society. Communication between people, exchange various information, job search, relationship building techniques and recreation have already moved from the real world to the virtual world.
Social networks are an important and relevant issue today. Recently, this type of site has become most widespread both in the West and here in Russia. The results of numerous studies indicate that social networks have already reached more than half of all Internet users. In Russia, this figure is still lower than the world figure, but it is growing rapidly.
Social networks have both positive and negative sides. So, on the one hand, they turn out to be an invaluable assistant in finding your old acquaintances and friends, in maintaining relationships with them, despite the distance and busyness. In addition, social networks are a valuable tool in the job search process of modern people.
On the other hand, recently scientists have been seriously concerned about how much time a modern person spends on social networks, raising the question of a possible mental disorder - psychological dependence on social networks.
Social networks are the main reason why people are spending more and more time on the Internet. The famous psychologist Evgeny Anatolyevich Polyakov confidently states that social networks have grown from the category of entertainment into a real psychological addiction. “Instead of official duties, employees spend their time “looking for friends” and viewing new messages, which in turn negatively affects not only the employee’s productivity, but also the person’s psychological state. Torn between work and virtual communication, people become stressed , which in turn affects physical health."
Addiction to social networks is revealed quite simply: you need to ban yourself from social networks for a while, for example for a month, and if there are no problems with this, there is no addiction; if an irresistible desire begins to appear, there is definitely an addiction.
Currently, the Internet as a global information system has firmly entered our lives. Being present in almost every home, the Internet has significantly expanded the possibilities in the process of searching and exchanging information, communicating between people, especially with regard to the so-called social networks, which are very popular among people of different ages, especially among young people.
Communication plays an important role in personality development at every age stage, but for young people, communication and interpersonal relationships are the most important factor personality formation.
Today's appearance new sphere communication - virtual has led to the fact that an increasing number of young people are replacing communication with real people communication with a virtual interlocutor.
Social networking sites help young people with “self-presentation”, because by presenting themselves to a virtual interlocutor, a young person can, for example, create an ideal image. Social networks indulge the human desire to look in the best light and allow you to present yourself in the most favorable way.
I very often observe that the modern young generation, even when going outside, does not part with their phones, and therefore with the Internet, i.e. play network games, are on social networks.
In preparation for today's talk, I did some research among my students.
The purpose of my research: to determine the role of the Internet and social networks in the lives of young people and the problems that exist in connection with the use of social networks.
Tasks:
- Analyze how often and for what purpose young people visit the Internet and social networks.
- To determine whether young people consider online communication a substitute for real communication.
The study involved high school students aged 15 to 18 years, a total of 37 people were interviewed (17 boys and 20 girls), research method: questionnaire. As a result of the study, the following results were obtained.
Most young people spend enough a large number of time on the Internet: 29.5% - up to 5 hours a day, and for 40.9% - the Internet works around the clock, only 4.6% (2 people) of all respondents use the Internet very rarely, it is not of particular interest to them .
The most preferred sites visited by boys and girls are sites containing music and films, search engines, gaming sites. That is, it should be noted that young people use the Internet more as an entertainment resource, rather than as an information one. Only a small number of respondents noted that they often visit sites containing information on academic disciplines, and read virtual books and encyclopedias 8 and 4 people respectively). 30 people chose the answer “other” and indicated that it was “social networks”.
The most popular social networks among the respondents are VKontakte (all 32 people are registered) and Odnoklassniki (all students). 10 people are registered in three social networks, 17 people are registered in five different social networks.
Thus, my research allows us to draw the following conclusions:
The Internet and social networks occupy a significant place in the lives of young people, acting as a means of communication and a way of spending leisure time. Spending a long time on social networks often separates young people from real communication, which is so necessary for the full development of the individual. Although most young people still prefer real communication to virtual communication.
Communication on social networks has the features of simple communication; active users of social networks suffer from language literacy, richness and imagery of speech, which cannot worry me as a teacher of literature.
Since the communication process occurs at a distance, interpersonal contacts are significantly impoverished. People can practice “live communication” skills only in real life, but the virtual life of social networks puts them in a situation where these skills are not used, it becomes more difficult to determine the emotional state of the interlocutor during live communication and therefore it becomes more difficult to choose the right line of behavior. The ease of interrupting contacts does not make it possible to develop the ability to resolve complex conflict communication situations.
All this can lead to adaptation disorders in society.
Therefore it is necessary to decide this problem. Here are several solutions: limiting the time spent on networks, searching alternative ways time spent (for example, playing sports, creativity, socially useful activities), increasing the time of real communication with friends.
Ideally, online communication should complement our lives, and not be the basis of all life activities.
Modern youth tries to communicate in a more simplified, often illiterate language. In the future, this may affect the speech culture of an entire generation.
The network language has already become a new style online communication, and spelling on websites, the presence of spelling errors becomes a habit and causes a decline in literacy;
I asked my students: “Do you monitor your literacy when you write SMS or messages on social networks? Does it annoy you when you find mistakes in your friends' posts? . To which I received the following responses:
- Of course, you want to write correctly, but when you write quickly, you somehow forget. You can write “of course”, and “tomorrow” and “go.” But, in the end, the Internet does not require an A in Russian.
- You just need to KNOW the rules of your native language so as not to strain yourself. At school, the rules are not given for dictations... although, apparently, it depends on who...
- Of course, I watch my spelling. but often, in a hurry, I make mistakes, but I don’t bother with commas. I often place them as pauses. Because I'm in a hurry. And when others write with mistakes, I’m ready to just kill. Well, how can you write like this:
“Hello. What’s the schedule for tomorrow? I forgot to look at the changes. When you wake up, it’s boring for me to go to school all the time.” This irritates me so much!!!
Of course, as a philologist, I was pleased with such answers. But there were also answers in which children simply do not pay attention to spelling, punctuation, speech culture, as they say, “they don’t bother.” And this is very disappointing.
Russian language is one of the most difficult subjects school curriculum. And for many years, no one doubted the need to know the norms and rules of their native language. Unfortunately, these are difficult times for the Russian language. The rapid negative changes that are taking place in it force many researchers to talk more and more often about the fact that our language is becoming depleted, losing its brilliance and depth. What is the reason for negative trends in the development of the Russian language? Most researchers agree that the problem is based on too active penetration of colloquial, vernacular language into the literary language. They especially highlight youth slang, and in particular Internet slang, considering it the “culprit” that the Russian language is in danger of dying, and they call for a decisive fight against it. Is it so? Or, as other researchers believe, Internet slang is just a natural phenomenon in the development of Russian society, and you need to treat it calmly.
But how to fight? After all, many guys use slang and profanity not only in personal messages, but also in established statuses, exposing a lack of ethics for all to see. And site administrators and moderators don’t even react to this. I believe thatwe should fight for the purity of the great and mighty Russian language, so that society in general and the younger generation in particular do not follow the path of degradation. I constantly have conversations with children about the rules of communication on the Internet. And the children still listen. Analyzing their pages on Odnoklassniki, I notice that there is less profanity, photographs, and statements.
Another problem with communicating on the Internet is that children leave a lot personal information. They do not hesitate to provide information about themselves, family, address, and the presence of valuables. Almost a quarter periodically end up on “adult sites.” Unfortunately, 95% of parents believe that school teachers should teach children about Internet safety.
Most likely, children should learn the culture of behavior and communication on the World Wide Web not only at school, but also from their parents. Therefore, do not be lazy to check which sites your child “visits” most often and periodically remind him of confidentiality when communicating on the Internet, even with those whom he seems to have known for a long time.
Speaking about the advantages of Internet communication, we can emphasize that communication on social networks makes it possible to communicate with each other at any time of the day. With the help of social networks, real meetings of classmates or fellow students are quite often organized, which, of course, brings people closer together. There is a possibility of meeting people who share your hobbies or are involved in the same professional field, which means exchanging opinions, information and knowledge. This will allow you to learn to analyze and increase your experience. Often this kind of acquaintance leads to cooperation. You can often meet your “soul mate” on social networks. But the medal also has back side. Due to frequent spending time on the Internet, many begin to have health problems, some harm their studies, work, destroy families and simply waste their time. All this is happening on a global scale. Therefore, the task of psychologists is to deeply study individual behavior in virtual reality. It is especially relevant to study the influence of social networks on personality in adolescence, since it is at this age that a person is most sensitive to the influence of information and communication technologies.
Obviously the chatscan no longer be excluded from our lives, it would be logical to create a concept of struggle for the purity of the Russian language, for general literacy in this area. I think chat language is an area of linguistic research in the future. In this sense, I would like to recall the words of S.A. Yesenina: “You can’t see a face face to face, the big one is seen from a distance.” Who knows, maybe chats will be the beginning of a mass passion for literacy, a desire to revive the “rich and powerful” Russian language?
Thank you for your attention!
Memo
It must be remembered that the profile can be viewed by almost anyone, and with any intentions, so it is necessary to adhere to a certain code of the user of social networks, and then communication on social networks will only be beneficial and will bring positive emotions. Next, let's look at the rules of communication.
Communication Rule No. 1
"Your real name"
When registering on a popular social network, follow the rules that are established for users - register under your real name (Facebook, VKontakte and many other networks ask for this). Never tell strangers or people you barely know your phone number and residential address.
Communication Rule No. 2
“Avatar, personal photos and videos”
You can post high-quality and beautiful photo or pick up beautiful avatar. But you should not use unpleasant or obscene pictures, since by doing this you not only offend other users, but also make it clear that you are a frivolous and ill-mannered person.
Before you post any photos and videos online, be sure to think about what will happen if your mom, dad, friends, teachers, in general, your entire social circle see them. Remember - social networks are a meeting place for completely different people, of all ages, different professions, with a variety of interests and intentions.
Try not to overdo it with frankness. The fact is that there are a lot of scammers on social networks, so you need to follow the rules safe behavior in social networks. Do not forward photos to new acquaintances. This can only be done after you have met in person and got to know each other better.
Don't tag yourself in all the photos.. Look at the footage that asks you to check in. Choose photographs that do not contain incriminating evidence, for example, shots of alcohol or cigarettes. Politely ask that such photos be removed, and do not post photos with other people without their knowledge and consent.
Communication Rule No. 3
"Text messages and similar information"
We all have very different moods and states. Remember that you don’t know who exactly is viewing your profile or who is hiding behind unfamiliar nicknames or even a completely ordinary photo and the name Vitya Morkovkin. Therefore, you should only open personal accounts to those in whom you are truly confident.
Be sure to keep in mind that any material on the Internet can be easily copied and shown to someone who should not see it. Out of respect for my readers and friends try to write positive things, this will attract people to you and lift everyone's spirits.
Avoid words and sentences written in capital letters. A word, a sentence consisting only of capital letters, is subconsciously perceived by a person as raising his voice.
Always be literate. In real life, a person is judged by appearance, and in the virtual world, the first impression is formed by the way you write. When communicating, do not forget to use punctuation marks, express your thoughts briefly and unambiguously so that they are always clear, and simply watch your grammar. During correspondence, do not rush to write a sentence, as you risk making a bunch of unnecessary mistakes.
Eliminate profanity. As in the cases with real communication, profanity will be perceived negatively in communication on the Internet.
Always thank your interlocutor for the time and information provided to you.
Communication Rule No. 4
"Friendship Proposals"
When sending or accepting a friend request, be polite. If you receive an offer from a stranger, look at his profile; perhaps you have known each other for a long time or have crossed paths through work, study or business. A friend request quite often only means that you and your posts or photos are simply interesting to this user. After reading the profile of the person who sent the friend request, you have the right to accept or not accept the proposal, but in any case, do it as politely as possible.
Don’t give in to offers and don’t go to personal meetings with people you don’t know. Please inform your parents about such offers.
Communication Rule No. 5
"Pages and groups"
You should not add other users to groups without first agreeing with them. Would you like this kind of attitude towards yourself? Golden Rule reality: “Treat others as you treat yourself” also works on the Internet.
Communication Rule No. 6
“No to spam!”
When communicating on social networks, you should not send any materials to all participants. Do not forget that messages are received by absolutely everyone who is in this moment is in the chat, and they don’t need it at all, and neither do you.
Communication Rule No. 7
"Don't relyto privacy settings»
No matter how diligently you try to protect your personal data on social networks, it is best to get used to the idea that everything you post may become known to your parents, school officials and strangers. Use your own discretion.
Never leave the login and password of your pages on unfamiliar sites, or at someone’s request.
Limit your personal information. On a social network it is not at all necessary to post your address and phone number. This information can be provided in a conversation if it is needed. Posted in open access personal information about you threatens to cause trouble for you from other people.
Communication Rule No. 8
"Disputes and Conflicts"
When entering into a discussion with another person, criticize the arguments, not the other person. Always justify your opinion, rely on real facts. Don’t react to rudeness addressed to you, don’t be rude yourself.
These are the basic rules of communication and behavior on social networks. Follow them, and you will always feel comfortable on the Internet. And in general, try to schedule personal meetings instead of communicating with people on social networks.
create good mood communicating.
Memo for parents
"Helping children in safe use social networks"
We all use social networks. Some more, some less. But virtual communication is gradually penetrating our real life. And just like in real life, on social networks we communicate, get to know each other, share our impressions and think that we know how to behave correctly there. From childhood we are taught how to behave correctly in society so that a good impression is made of us. But no one teaches us and our children how to behave correctly on social networks.
In order to avoid making mistakes in the future and have an understanding of the rules of behavior on social networks, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with tips that will help our children safely use social networking sites.
1. Talk to your children about their social media interactions. Encourage children to tell you if they see anything online that makes them anxious, uncomfortable, or afraid. Remain calm and reassure your children that it is okay for you to talk about these things. Let your children know that you will help them successfully resolve the situation.
2. Define rules for working on the Internet. Once your children become independent users of the Internet, set rules for using the Internet. These rules should define whether and how your children can use social networking sites.
3. Make sure your children comply with age restrictions. The recommended age for registering on social networking sites is usually 13 years or older. If your children are under this age, do not allow them to use these sites. You should not rely entirely on the services themselves to prevent your children from signing up for these sites.
4. Learn. Evaluate the sites your child plans to use and make sure you and your child understand the privacy policies and rules of conduct. Find out whether the site has controls over the content it publishes. Also, review your child's page periodically.
5. Teach your children never to meet in person someone they have only interacted with online. Children are exposed to real danger during face-to-face meetings with strangers, with whom they communicated only online. Sometimes it is not enough to simply tell children not to talk to strangers, as children may not consider someone they have “met” online to be a stranger.
6. Ask your children to only socialize with people they already know. You can help protect your children by asking them to use these sites to communicate with friends and never communicate with anyone they have not met in person.
7. Make sure your children do not indicate their full names. Teach your child to use only their first name or nickname and never use nicknames that might attract unwanted attention. Also, don't let your kids post their friends' full names.
8. Be careful if your children provide personally identifiable information. such as a school animal mascot, workplace or city of residence. If too much information is provided, your children may be exposed to cyber threats, attacks from Internet criminals, Internet scammers, or identity theft.
9. Try to choose a site that allows you to protect your page using a password or other means to limit the number of visitors to only those people your child knows.
10. Keep an eye on the details in the photos. Explain to children that photographs can reveal a lot of personal information. Ask children not to post photos of themselves or their friends that have clearly identifiable information, such as street names, license plate numbers, or the name of the school on clothing.
11. Warn your child about expressing their emotions in front of strangers. You've probably already warned your children not to communicate directly with strangers online. However, children use social networking sites to write journals and poems, which often express strong feelings. Explain to children that what they write can be read by anyone with Internet access, and kidnappers often target emotionally vulnerable children.
12. Teach children about online threats. As soon as your children are old enough to use social networking sites, teach them about cyber threats. Tell your children that if they feel threatened online, they should immediately tell a parent, teacher, or other trusted adult. It is also important to teach children to communicate online in the same way they communicate in person. Encourage children to treat other people the same way they would like to be treated themselves.
13. Deleting your child's page. If your children refuse to follow the rules you set to protect their safety, and you have tried unsuccessfully to help them change their behavior, you can contact the social networking website your child is using to request that their page be removed. You may also want to consider Internet content filtering tools as a complement to, and by no means a replacement for, parental control.
We all use social networks. Some more, some less. But still, virtual communication is gradually penetrating into our real life. And just like in real life, on social networks we communicate, get to know each other, share our impressions and think that we know how to behave correctly there. From childhood we are taught how to behave correctly in society so that a good impression is made of us. But no one teaches us how to behave correctly on social networks. In order to avoid making mistakes in the future and have an idea of the rules of decency on social networks, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with the list of rules of etiquette on social networks.
Etiquette Rule #1:
Never ask for likes or reposts
Etiquette Rule #2:
Don't demand an immediate response from your interlocutor
If you see that your friend is online but does not respond to your message, do not rush to be offended and demand an immediate response. After all, in this case, he is not necessarily looking at your unread message and voluptuously awaits your angry reaction. He may walk away from the computer, forgetting to close his page. Or he can simply do something else at the same time, for example, watch a movie.
Etiquette Rule #3:
If you appear online on the network,
reply to incoming messages as quickly as possible
To avoid offense and misunderstandings, whenever possible, respond to incoming messages as soon as possible. After all, this is the beauty of communicating online, as in a real conversation. And it’s not like it happens that you receive an answer and already forget what was discussed in your correspondence.
Etiquette Rule #4:
Don't tag people in photos without their knowledge.
Your friend may not like how he turned out in the photo. Or he doesn’t want anyone to know that he was in this or that place in the circle of a certain company. Give him the opportunity to make his own choice whether to post this photo on his page or not.
Etiquette Rule #5:
Know the limits in your check-ins
You shouldn’t check in at every room that has an address and at least some name. Believe me, your subscribers are not at all interested in tracking your every step and littering their feed with your trips to grocery stores. Check in with really interesting places and recommend them to your subscribers.
Etiquette Rule #6:
Posting food photos is no longer fashionable
The fashion for photographing dishes in a restaurant has long passed. Stop!!! It’s one thing to photograph restaurant food when the presentation of the dish, laid out by the chef with great love, whispers to you: take a photo of me. But it’s completely different when it gets to the point of insanity and you post your full daily ration of home-prepared dishes on your online page. Your page on social networks is not a reporting line to your nutritionist; your other subscribers also watch it. Save their time and save them from viewing unnecessary information.
Etiquette Rule No. 7:
Limit access to your posts with personal content
If you want yours to personal problem If a couple of girlfriends sympathized with you, or if you want to annoy your ex-boyfriend with a personal publication, you shouldn’t make such a publication open access for all your subscribers. Of course, if you don’t want to be branded as a hysterical and whiner. After all, life changes, problems pass, but the impression of you from your posts remains. So in this case, on such posts it is better to immediately restrict access for certain people.
Etiquette Rule No. 8:
Stop posting stupid statuses
Take it as a rule - “taboo on stupid statuses.” Before you change your status to one that you just found on the Internet and it seemed “cool” to you, re-read it at least twice. Perhaps when you read it again, you won’t find it so witty. And your subscribers have to involuntarily read it every time they visit your page. And so it is formed about you public opinion. Take care of the correct perception of yourself in the eyes of others.
Etiquette Rule #9:
Breaking off real relationships using social networks is unacceptable.
Under no circumstances should you resort to virtual way breaking real relationships. This is mean, low and inhuman. If there is a possibility of meeting in person, resolve such issues only by looking your ex-lover in the eyes. After all, if you have ever loved this person, he does not deserve to be broken up through a message on social networks. Be more serious and bolder.
Etiquette Rule #10:
The permissible norm of selfies published in a row is 3 pieces
Don't overdo it with your pride. After at least 3 selfies, dilute your feed with a picture of a different content. Otherwise, your subscribers will have the opportunity to watch how your appearance changes. If you quickly look through all the selfies in a row, you can even track the appearance of small wrinkles on your face.
Etiquette Rule #11:
If you repost sad stories, then at least check them for accuracy
How often do we see calls for help for a homeless dog or an abandoned kitten in our friends’ feeds? But does anyone even check them for accuracy? Where does the money collected go, is it spent as intended, and is the animal really still homeless and suffering? Before posting such a post on your wall, at least check the relevance of the stated problem. Maybe at this point the problem has already been solved.
Etiquette Rule No. 12:
Never post personal information about a person on someone else’s wall.
What you know about your friend (acquaintance) does not need to be known to the general public. Before you post personal information about another person on their wall, make sure that the information is not private. After all, this is not your personal correspondence; all his friends can read about it. If someone has entrusted you with their secret, keep it and appreciate it.
Insurance companies warn that the number of crimes committed on social networks is steadily increasing. Posting personal information in public access increases the risk of becoming a victim of fraudsters. Moreover, it may even cause you to lose your job or tarnish your reputation.
Telling the first strangers you meet about yourself everything that comes into your head is not the best idea, nevertheless, millions of people around the world do this through the social networks VKontakte, Odnoklassniki, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, etc.
At the same time, most of us are still not aware of the consequences of their careless behavior on the Internet. By indicating our location on our social media pages, we ourselves give a “tip” to potential robbers. An attacker can easily calculate your daily routine and “accidentally” find himself in the right place.
So, in New Hampshire there was a robbery case that brought the victim losses of 200 thousand dollars. The reason for the robbery was a careless post by a man in which he himself said when he was going to go on vacation. It’s good that the poor guy didn’t think of telling the whole world that he left the keys to the apartment under the rug...
There is also a risk of becoming a victim of persecution or violence. Therefore, for your own safety, you should only plan personal meetings with virtual friends in crowded places.
By sharing frank stories about our experiences and personal lives on social networks, we ourselves make it easier for those who want to gain our trust and arouse sympathy.
If you don’t want to become a victim of scammers, keep your mouth shut. Being candid in public can make you a victim of cyberstalking, bullying, and bullying.
And a photo posted in the public domain can destroy a person’s reputation, career, and even lead to litigation.
In general, the main advice that experts give regarding safe behavior on social networks is to think carefully before writing anything on your page, because someone will certainly read it!
Rules for safe communication on social networks
It’s one thing to call your friends or family members and tell them that you’ll be late at work, at a party, at a bar, etc. today. It's quite another to tell several hundred people about it, many of whom you've never met in real life.
2. Beware of publishing your personal information on the Internet
Posting details of your personal life on the Internet can lead to attackers knowing almost more about you than your immediate family. A potential criminal will collect information about you bit by bit, and for your safety, you should not make this task easy for him.
3. Don't spread information about other people
A thief who plans to rob one of your friends or relatives will be grateful to you for providing information about his potential victim. Are you going to party with your friends until the morning? Don’t tell the whole world when, where and with whom you are going. And impressions and beautiful photos better share the next day.
4. Don't report expensive purchases you make.
Who doesn’t like to show off expensive purchases and new things to their friends on a social network? Robbers are looking for potential victims who have money and expensive new gadgets. When you talk lightheartedly about expensive purchases, you give a signal to potential robbers that it would be a good idea to rummage through your apartment or car.
Robbery is a risky business. It is much easier for criminals to break into someone else’s home when the owners are not at home: take what you want and leave quietly. Don't write about when you are going to leave home. Moreover, you should not talk about the fact that you are going to and leaving the house unattended.
6. Don't share information about your daily schedule.
The more burglars know about your daily activities, the easier it is for them to plan a break-in into your apartment or home. In addition, knowing about your usual movements, an attacker can lie in wait for you in a deserted place.
7. Do not write any information about children
Remember! Children's safety comes first! The less you write about children – yours and others’ – the better for them. Do not talk about their habits, hobbies, location, friends, class schedule, clubs they attend.
8. Meet new friends from virtual world only in crowded places
Perhaps you are already corresponding with this “friend” long time, and you feel like you know your online friend very well. In fact, this is an illusion. On the Internet, there is always a possibility that the person you are talking to is not who he says he is.
Therefore, always choose public places for the first meeting. This will not only protect you from possible troubles, but will also reassure the person you are going to meet.
9. Don't share details that cyberbullies and trolls can use against you.
Don't share details about yourself on social media or post photos that someone might use to tease you. Online bullying can be just as painful as in real life, if not worse. After all, everything that happens on the Internet is recorded and stored here forever. And rumors and jokes spread like an avalanche. And the scale is worldwide!
10. Don't write anything that could harm your reputation.
Stupid joke, inappropriate comment, drunk photo, political controversy, stupid antics - thanks modern technologies and social networks, you now have more opportunities than ever to tarnish your own reputation. Even if your wife or boss doesn’t see the “wrong” post, it’s likely that there will be people willing to take advantage of your vulnerability.
11. Do not insult or slander your friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues, etc.
There was a precedent in the United States when a teacher won a $3 million lawsuit against a student because he wrote on a social network that the teacher was a pedophile. Even if in your case things don't go that far. Remember: you will have to answer for slander and spreading rumors, one way or another.
“Truth is in wine,” the Romans used to say. There are few things that liberate and provoke unnecessary frankness like. And it’s better if your frankness is listened to one-on-one by one of your close friends, and not read by a hundred unfamiliar people.