How to communicate with people on social networks. The harm of social networks
The Republic of Sakha (Yakutia)
MUNICIPALITY
“N E R Y N G R I N S K I R A Y O N”
N E R Y N G R I N S K A Y R A Y O N N A Y A D M I N I S T R A T I O N
Municipal budgetary educational institution
Gymnasium No. 2 of the city of Neryungri
678960 RS (Y), Neryungri, street named after Viktor Kravchenko, building 8, building 1, tel./fax (41147) 4 –26 –44,
e-mail: [email protected]
Research onVIIregional scientific and practical conference young researchers "Step into the future".
Completed:
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MBOU Gymnasium No. 2
Timur Baybars
Scientific adviser:
teacher of Russian language and literature
MBOU Gymnasium No. 2
Balagurova Marina Vyacheslavovna
Neryungri, 2015
Content
Introduction……………………………………………………………...3
4. Study of communication in in social networks …………………......12-15
Conclusion……………………………...................................... ..........18-20
References………………………..……………….......................20
Introduction
The main function of language is communication. Communication for a person is his habitat. Without communication, the formation of a person’s personality, his upbringing, and the development of intelligence are impossible. Communication helps organize working together, outline and discuss plans, implement them. But today, communication in the generally accepted meaning of the word has changed somewhat, because network communication has become widespread, i.e. communication via the Internet. Some people welcome it and actively use it in everyday life, while others are opponents, defending live, direct communication.
Our research work is devoted to the topical issue of studying the features of communication in the space of social networks.
The purpose of our work is to study the category of communication in social networks.
To achieve this goal, we put forward the following tasks:
studying the category of communication, comparing real and online communication;
research into the language of communication of social networks;
study of the significance of social networks in the life of a modern person;
study of the characteristics of communication in social networks.
Subject of research: communication on social networks.
Hypothesis: we believe that in modern world communication is moving from real to virtual format.
Methods of work: theoretical study of this issue, observation, questioning, linguistic experiment.
Communication is a concept that describes the interaction between people and characterizes the basic human need to be included in society and culture.
It is difficult to say when communication began. But we can definitely say that a person cannot live without communication. Thus, communication is a natural human need present at every stage of the development of civilization. Communication can be oral and written, real and online.
The very first thing that arose, of course, was verbal and real. People met on the street, visited each other, went to the theater, the opera, met on dance floors, i.e. conveyed their thoughts, requests, impressions through direct personal contact.
Non-verbal language means play a big role in such communication: gestures, facial expressions, since we not only hear the interlocutor, but also see him, and therefore immediately react to his joy, pain, suffering, happiness.
But people were not always nearby, and therefore the need for written communication arose. At first, people used rock paintings as messages. And after the advent of writing, they began to actively write letters to each other.
In the modern world, a world of speed and progress, new types of communication have emerged. The human need for high-speed communication (information transfer) became the basis for the emergence of the Internet. And with the emergence and spread of the Internet, the epistolary genre faded into the background and became no longer so widespread, because no one wants to wait for a letter, much less write it, observing the rules of grammar and spelling. Therefore, many aspects of our lives gradually migrated to the virtual world. And communication was no exception. And if the older generation still does not forget about traditional forms communication, the younger generation increasingly prefers virtual connections.
What is the Internet? In the modern world, everyone can answer this question. This is one of the ways to communicate or search for information. In addition, it serves as entertainment or is simply used to “go away into yourself” and forget about surrounding problems.
The society of people “surfing” on the Internet: communicating, working, having fun is called Internet society.
The specificity of being in the information environment of the Internet creates new forms of communication, liberates and pushes people to deliberate, and sometimes rash, actions. For example, now when registering on almost all online communication websites it is allowed not to indicate real data, i.e. remain an anonymous user: starting from the date of birth and ending with the first and last name. Also, users often come up with pseudonyms for themselves, or as they say online, “nicknames” (abbreviated as “nicknames”), which translated from English means “nickname.” Most Internet users, when creating a page on any social network, after a while create another one or more. It happens when a page is created where the data, including the photo (avatar), does not correspond to the data of its creator. Such pages are called fakes("fake" translated from English - fake, counterfeit).
Thus, the Internet has its own purpose for each person and everyone uses it for different purposes. But in our work we will talk only about one of the main “abilities” of the Internet, the communicative function of the Internet, i.e. that function by which people communicate at a distance and communicate with each other. Quite a few means have been invented for this - various services (for example, mail or forums) where you can exchange information with each other. All sitesthis type can be called two in simple words: social network (or social network for short).
The emergence of social networks was a consequence of the development and spread of the Internet itself. According to statistics, about 50% of the population of our planet are members of some social network, and some are even in several at once. Their popularity is best demonstrated by data on young people: 96% of young people communicate on social media. networks. And they are really addictive; it’s not for nothing that the Internet is called the World Wide Web.
The term “social network” itself consists of the words “society” and “network”. “Socium” - related to society. But the word “network”, from the point of view of the Russian language, is a polysemantic word and in S. I. Ozhegov’s explanatory dictionary it has four meanings.
The following values caught our attention:
A device, a product made of intersecting threads, ropes, wires fixed at different intervals (for catching birds, fish)
A set of institutions, enterprises and individuals located, scattered over a certain territory and connected by one system.
Based on the analysis of lexical meanings, it becomes clear that in the term “social network” the word we are considering is used in the second meaning. However, the first meaning is no less interesting and takes on an ironic sound. What is a social network if not a trap? And falls into this trap a large number of people who spend everything on social networks free time and unfree too.
The origins of social networks began almost with the birth of the Internet itself back in 1969. Throughout the evolution of social Networks can be distinguished into two main directions of development: purely professional communities and non-specialized networks. Derived from professional communities are networks that unite people with the same interests or hobbies.
Various researchers suggest that the Classmates.com network, created by Randy Conrads in 1995, be considered the very first social networking resource. Classmates translates as classmates. The site provided users with the opportunity to reconnect with former classmates, classmates, colleagues, friends.
In 1999, an American programmer student opened the Livejournal.com service. There, unlike Classmates.com, you could create a fairly detailed profile. Soon the service provided the ability to add contacts (friends). Livejournal became the first Western social service to become popular in Russia.
The second wave of social networks occurred in 2001-2004. For social services, which appeared in this period of time, are characterized by a division into niches, one of which was business. The first web resource focused on maintaining business contacts was Ryze.com in 2001.
Since 2004, all kinds of online communities from a wide variety of niches began to use social tools on their services. networks. In Russia, these include MoiKrug.ru, Professionali.ru. On common interests networks such as Dogster.ru are founded - for dog owners, Couchsurfing.com - for travelers, Care2.com - for activists and volunteers, MyChurch.com - for Christians.
In 2004, Mark Zuckerberg (a Harvard student) launched the Facebook portal, which today is the largest social network. But initially registration was only available to Harvard students. Gradually, students from other universities, and then schoolchildren, gained access to Facebook. By 2008 year Facebook became the largest in world of social. a network whose service is available in 40 languages.
In Russia, the first such project was social. VKontakte network. It was founded in 2006 by St. Petersburg programmer Pavel Durov (co-author is his brother Nikolai). Today the VKontakte network is the largest social networking resource in the CIS. It is one of the 30 most visited portals in the world.
In the same 2006 he was born Russian analogue network Classmates.com - “Odnoklassniki”, authored by Albert Popkov. The social network is used to communicate with past and present classmates, fellow students and just friends. According to the latest data, there are more than 67 million registered users on the social network. For comparison, the social network “VKontakte” ( main competitor"Odnoklassniki") has more than 100 million participants
Social the network is in “great demand” around the world. After all, this is the most relevant form of information exchange at a distance (after mobile phone). This form of communication has many advantages: it does not require special expenses, it is accessible to everyone, unlike the telephone it cannot be busy, i.e. it can be used simultaneously by an unlimited number of people. People cannot miss the opportunity to use such a convenient method to communicate with each other or send any files in a few seconds, while they are separated by hundreds, thousands or even millions of kilometers.
Today the following social networks are popular in Russia:
In contact with- 50 million visitors per month;
Odnoklassniki - 43 million visitors per month;
Facebook- 28 million visitors per month;
Twitter- 10 million visitors per month.
Statistics on the number of letters sent per week also indicate high social traffic. networks:
Twitter-3 7 .5 million;
In contact with-13 million;
Odnoklassniki - 8.7 million.
As we have established, at the very beginning of the development of the social network, it was intended for business conversations and only then began to enjoy universal popularity. Along with universal popularity, slang appears on the social network - a set of special words or new meanings of existing words used in various human associations (professional, social, age and other groups).
Being on social networks today occupies a leading position in the lives of young people. The consequence was the functioning of special words and stable phrases that are used when communicating in virtual networks. And pFirst of all, this is connected with another form of communication, that is, such as writing. “User” (translated from Internet slang as “a person who uses the Internet”), typing on the keyboard, tries to shorten words to save time. Over time, new examples appear from abbreviated words: disposition (like); thank you, thank you, thank you (thank you); nzch (you're welcome); pzhlst (please); now (now); lan(okay); ahah (laughter), etc., etc. Behind Lately English words written in Russian letters often slip into slang, examples: pliz or plz (please-pleasea) ; like(like- like); bro (abbreviated frombrother-brother); Senk( thanks-Thank you); lol (short forLotOfLaugh - die laughing); go (from English.go- go);ok (from Englishokorokay); kul or kul (from English.cool- cool).etc.
Foreign borrowings are more popular among slang expressions on social networks. This is due not only to the growing influence of foreign culture, but also to the fact that English language is the international language for communication on the Internet:admin – "administrator",user – “user”,internet - "Internet",online – “user on the network”,content – “filling, content”, etc. The slang of social networks uses borrowings that arose precisely in this communication environment, for example,like - “I like the mark”like - “to talk about a preference for something”,comment - "a comment",comment – “leave a comment.”
Therefore, the trends popular culture have great value for slang vocabulary on social networks.
At the present stage, slang words and expressions on social networks tend to create and use various kinds of abbreviations. Abbreviations can be used both in borrowed form (OMG - "ohmygod"LOL – “laughoutloud”,IMHO - “inmyhumbleopinion”), and the tracing version (cf.OMG, LOL, IMHO ), although the abbreviation is not translated into Russian in accordance with the composition. Abbreviation as a way of forming slangisms on social networks is becoming increasingly popular, because... not only “saves” time, but also contains information in encrypted form that may relate to taboo concepts.
In addition, to convey emotions in writing emoticons are actively used. When communicating on social networks, it is not possible to use one of powerful means real communication - intonation. Intonation is directly related to the expression of emotions during a conversation. But it doesn’t exist in virtual communication. Virtual interlocutors partially solved this problem by using emoticons to express emotions.
In order to determine the meanings of emoticons, we conducted observations on the pages of social network users. We compared the emoticons we found with the content of the letter or status. The results were as follows:
1.))) - laughter;
2.) - smile;
3. :-* - kiss;
4. :-D – laughs;
5. ;-) – winking;
6. ;-(- crying;
7. :-P – teases;
8. - offended;
9. :-@ - angry;
10. :-> - dissatisfied;
11. :-/ - surprised;
12. O_o – scared;
13. (- a little sad.
Basically, it's quite convenient. Each emoticon expresses a specific emotion. Therefore, the text of some of the interlocutors’ remarks or statuses may consist of one emoticon, which will tell the interlocutor that the user is dissatisfied with something, he is not in the mood, or vice versa.
But many linguists believe that this principle of slang formation carries Negative influence. It often happens that words we are all familiar with have a completely different meaning on a social network. For example, a word likeaccordion means that any joke, phrase, comic, etc. already “not the first freshness”, i.e. outdated. But if 4-5 years ago Internet slang was only Internet slang, now it has gone beyond the Internet and began to appear not only in forum dialogues, but also in ordinary speech. The virtual language is developing, and there are fears that in the future Internet slang will become part of the classical language.
Research on communication in social networks.
As part of our research, we conducted a survey to study the features of communication on social networks. For this purpose, a survey was conducted. The respondents who were asked the survey questions were divided into age groups in order to identify the peculiarities of communication in people’s social networks different ages:
22 respondents (age 12-13 years)
15 respondents (age 15-17 years)
8 respondents (age from 25 to 45 years)
During the survey we asked the following questions:
Are you registered on social networks?
If yes, what social networks are you on?
For what purpose are you registered on a social network?
How much time do you spend communicating on social media? networks per day?
What kind of communication do you prefer, virtual or real?
How many friends do you have on your profile?
Do you communicate with everyone in real life?
When are you in last time did you write a handwritten letter?
Do you know what Internet slang is?
Do you use internet slang when communicating on social networks?
If yes, for what purpose?
The results of the study are presented in the table:
Survey question
1 group
2nd group
3 group
1) 19-yes,
2) 3-no
1) 15-yes
1) 8 - yes
If yes, what social networks are you on?Cwhat purpose?
1) “VK” -17; 2) “Odnoklassniki” - 11;
3) "Facebook" - 2;
4) "Twitter"-2. (all respondents are registered in several networks at the same time)
1) 19 - communication, 2) 3 - online games.
1) “VK” -15; 2) “Odnoklassniki” - 15, “Facebook” - 8; “Twitter”-4 (all respondents are registered in several networks at the same time)
1) 15- communication
1) “VK” -4; 2) “Odnoklassniki” - 8; 3) “Facebook” - 6; 4) My World - 5. (all respondents are registered in several networks at the same time)
1) 8 – communication, information transfer
How much time do you spend communicating on social media? networks per day?
1) 3 hours or more - 11;
3) half an hour -2 .
1) 3 hours or more - 15 (since the Internet is on the cell phone).
1) 3 hours or more - 1;
2) from one and a half to two hours – 6;
3) half an hour – 1.
What kind of communication do you prefer, virtual or real?
1) 12 – real;
2) 10 - real and virtual;
3) virtual -0.
1) 15 - real and virtual; 2) virtual -0
1) 3 – real;
2) 5 - real and virtual;
3) virtual -0
How many friends do you have on your profile?
From 13 to 356 people
From 50 to 885
From 30 to 80
Do you communicate with everyone in real life?
7 – yes;
12 - no
7 – yes;
8 - no
6 – yes;
2 - no
Do you know what Internet slang is?
22 - yes
15 - yes
8 - yes
Do you use internet slang when communicating on social media? networks?
17 – yes;
2 - no
15 - yes
6 – yes;
2 - no
If yes, for what purpose?
17 – for convenience and conveying emotions (emoticons)
15 – for convenience and conveying emotions (emoticons)
6 – to convey emotions (emoticons)
Do you use internet slang when communicating in real life?
17 - yes
15-yes
2 – yes;
6 - no
In addition to the questionnaire, our study included an analysis of the dialogue of adolescents (12-13 years old) from social media. networks. The text of the dialogue preserves the spelling and punctuation of those communicating.
- Great!
- Hello Sanya, what are you doing?
- I’m learning my lessons, my mother made me (use an emoticon to convey my emotion).
- I'm not lucky, but I'm SaintsRow I'm playing
- My computer died (using Internet slang: computer computer, died - broke)
- Because of which?
- I downloaded the game from the Internet, launched it, and the computer turned off (using Internet slang: Internet)
- What are you going to do?
- Wait for the mechanics to call the repairman, it looks like the wind has flown, in order to fix it, you will have to clean the house and school all week good grades bring (use of internet slang:winda– Windows - operating system)
- Bye then.
- Let's.
From the survey and analysis of the dialogue among teenagers, we made the following conclusions:
Communication in virtual format on social pages. a person begins networks in adolescence, and in some cases earlier;
Despite the fact that in the modern world a person cannot imagine himself without the Internet and virtual communication, most still prefer live, real communication.
A large number of friends on the pages of social users. networks does not mean that this communication with them continues in real life. Most teenagers are fond of “collecting” friends on their personal pages.
Internet slang is actively emerging from virtual world in real life, especially in the speech of teenagers.
There are certain rules of communication on social networks. They are not difficult to find on the Internet; they can also be presented on the website, and before registering, the user is invited to carefully read them. We analyzed the rules of communication on various sites and came to the conclusion that they boil down to the same points:
1. Be friendly and sociable.
2. Know how to present the necessary information.
4. Listen to the opinions of others.
5. Be honest and sincere.
6. Be open to communication.
7. Do not promote violence, cruelty, or terrorism.
8. Don't insult other users.
9. Do not add messages containing obscene words.
10. Do not post pornographic materials.
11. Do not post photographs and personal information of other persons without their consent.
12. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, write what you think, accept constructive criticism, don’t pay attention to unfounded attacks directed at you.
13. Don't get into conflicts.
To answer this question: do online interlocutors use these rules of communication, we conducted observations in social networks. We analyzed user statuses, information on social media user pages. networks, videos via links, comments on photographs. As a result of observations, the most common violations were identified:
Posting photographs and videos with scenes of violence.
Rude expressions in comments to photographs, clearly causing conflict.
Statuses containing obscene language.
Conclusion
In our work, we raised the problem of the relationship between real and online communication. Nowadays, people are becoming addicted to communication on social networks, and this is a reason for each of us to think about it. Network communication has its advantages and disadvantages.
We included the following advantages:
1. The opportunity to find your acquaintances, friends, co-workers, colleagues.
2. Networking is huge opportunities for people with disabilities. People who, due to various circumstances, cannot leave home or make real friends, have a unique opportunity to meet people, communicate, and even unite their destinies and live a full life.
3. Virtual communication will help you relax and cheer up.
And to the disadvantages:
1. Virtual communication will never replace live, emotional and open dialogue.
2. During virtual communication there is no facial expression, movement, eye contact, no real emotions.
3. Virtual communication is gradually replacing real communication and is becoming dominant in human life.
4. Gradually, addiction appears when visiting a personal page becomes a daily ritual.
5. The skill of real communication is lost.
Considering this, it is important to follow the rules of online communication, then online communication will be pleasant and useful. But you still need to remember that live real communication cannot be replaced by any website. Also, with the help of our research, we wanted to warn users of social networks against negative consequences: dependence on network communication, use of the data you publish against you.
Therefore, in conclusion, we wanted to offer some recommendations for communicating on social networks:
1. Review your friends’ social media pages. Can everyone be called your friend?
2. Posting excessively detailed and complete information about you, your passport details, address, daily routine and plans, can provoke scammers or even robbers. If you are planning a trip or any other long absence from home, try not to announce it publicly.
3. Be positive, write about a successful vacation, a new job, a promotion, a diploma received, about any of your achievements or joys.
4. Photos have long ceased to be just “memory cards”; they are a modern way to show, tell something, boast or just have fun. And be careful here! It is better to ask permission from family or friends to post pictures if there is even a shadow of doubt that they may not like it or even harm it.
5. Don’t forget about live, real communication.
The Internet is creating a new language environment and influencing thinking. Some believe that linguistic experiments and innovations that are formed in virtual environment have potential and prospects in the future. They believe that Internet slang is the language of the future. But others, on the contrary, are afraid of such an assumption and are wary of such rapid development virtual language, believing that it negatively affects the development of modern society.
But no matter how different opinions are, and no matter what assumptions are made, one thing is clear - the Internet has changed both us and our attitude to life.
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Social networks are used today for dating and flirting, discussing sensitive topics, and doing business. For many, the Internet has replaced real communication. Virtual life follows its own rules that must be observed. Most rules of communication on social networks are aimed at improving interaction between people, making it safer and more enjoyable.
virtual communication
People learn social interaction from childhood. Network communications are subject to the same laws. You can make a good impression on your virtual interlocutors only by remaining tactful, polite, and friendly. We have formulated several tips on the topic: “How to communicate correctly on social networks.” These recommendations will help you create a reputation as a person who is pleasant in all respects.
Never do not behave intrusively, asking friends and subscribers for reposts and likes. Such requests cause irritation and a desire to limit communication. When posting information on your social network page that is submitted by strangers, try to check its relevance. Perhaps the photo of the lost child was posted five years ago. During this time, the baby managed to be found. Why draw people's attention to an alarming but long-past event?
Try not to make your personal life public. Stories about problems in relationships can be told to a very limited circle of people. Posting messages about events from your personal life on your wall on social networks is hardly worth it. The problems will end sooner or later, but the impression of you as a person who does not know how to control himself will remain. In addition, there may be attackers who want to take advantage of the situation and gain confidence.
How to have a private conversation
Through personal messages on social networks, you can communicate with friends or classmates who live in other cities and countries. But such correspondence has its own characteristics. Therefore, if a person does not respond to a message immediately, do not rush to be offended by him or blame him for being slow. Perhaps your friend is “offline” or simply forgot to leave the page, distracted by other matters.
When starting a conversation, always greet your interlocutor broadly. A short “Hello” or “Hello” sounds a little dismissive. Better use expressions like “Good afternoon.” Addressing your interlocutor by name creates an atmosphere of friendly communication, putting the person in a positive mood. This is especially important if your plans go beyond regular online correspondence.
Literacy never hurt anyone
If you want your words to be listened to, learn to write meaningfully and competently, especially since it is not difficult to do this now. User errors made in printed text are checked by the Word program, which highlights all clerical errors and typos. All you have to do is pay attention to the tips and use them. Multiple errors in the text are annoying, suggesting that the person lacks a basic education. Agree, it is unlikely that such an opinion about you will create a good reputation.
The modern Internet - slang is replete with many abbreviations and deliberately distorted funny words. Network jargon undoubtedly has a right to life, but we should not forget that the main goal of communication is to be understood. Therefore, you can use slang to shorten correspondence only where it is accepted. Shine on the forums with your knowledge of abbreviations like “IMHO” (“In my humble opinion” - “In my opinion” humble opinion"), "NFC" ("Near Field Communication") or "LOL" (very funny) is not necessary. In addition, many people simply do not know the meaning of these abbreviations.
Strengthening written language
An oral story carries an emotional overtones because it is accompanied by gestures or changes in intonation. Conveying your feelings through a short text is much more difficult. You can express your attitude to what is happening using special icons - emoticons. However, you should not abuse them. Pictures should not replace words, so that the interlocutor does not decide that you are simply too lazy to type text.
Sometimes the emotionality of the discussion goes off scale and people begin to use techniques to enhance written speech. If this is observed, there is nothing wrong with using succinct epithets and apt comparisons. But there are a large number of exclamation and question marks, as well as spelling words in capital letters, is perceived by interlocutors as an increase in tone during a normal conversation. By the way, on most forums, the use of “CAPS” (caps lock button) is prohibited.
Communication culture
If you don’t want to be branded as an ill-mannered rude person, never do not use profanity. Swear words look unattractive, even when they are simply spoken. But the text posted online will be read by hundreds of people participating in the discussion or visiting the page. Needless to say, when communicating with subscribers or virtual friends You can only touch on decent topics. The reputation of a cynical, cheeky person will not decorate anyone.
Having started personal correspondence, it is advisable do not delay in responding to a message. Waiting is annoying, negating the beauty of the conversation. If you were not the initiator of the correspondence, try to respond to the message within 24 hours. The culture of interpersonal communication involves polite manners. If you contact a person with a request or for clarification of information, always say “Thank you!” after you have been answered.
What you should not report online
Personal information on social networks
Provide your personal information, especially your phone number, with caution. No one can guarantee that a new acquaintance will turn out to be an adequate person. Changing a SIM card due to intrusive night calls or SMS is a troublesome task. Always remember that there are just as many scammers online as there are in real life. Don't give your number to anyone bank card or a control code from it. When paying for services, delete the data, otherwise it may become the property of attackers.
Photos
On their Internet pages, beauties strenuously demonstrate their own charms: the result of the work of cosmetologists, hairdressers, and nail art specialists. Such behavior suggests that young ladies are too fixated on the perception of themselves in the eyes of others. If your goal is not to create the image of a silly woman dependent on other people's opinions, limit yourself to a small number of frames good quality. You should not publish your candid photos on the Internet, even if you hide them with privacy settings. If intimate footage becomes public, your loved ones are unlikely to like it.
I would like to remind young people that girls are impressed by their sharp mind, good upbringing, and sense of humor. But a photograph against the backdrop of someone else’s expensive car will only cause a condescending smile. It’s also not a good idea to post pictures online from parties where you drink alcohol or fool around.
Posting photos of food is considered bad manners today. Pictures of homemade dishes are good on a culinary blog, but not on an Instagram page. Your menu is of little interest to virtual and real friends.
About other people
Before you post photos of your party, ask people you know if they want their images to be shared online. Perhaps what seems like harmless fun to you will become serious incriminating evidence for another person. Never tag people in a photo without their permission. If you know online friends in real life, do not share any information about them. A person will independently tell about himself when he considers it necessary.
About your location
Keep your vacation plans secret and do not rush to publish photos from the seaside if the apartment is left unattended at this time. The information can be used by burglars who look for victims through social networks. For the same reasons, you should not post your daily schedule or voice your plans for the weekend.
About children
Any parents want to brag about their child to others. However, for the safety of children, do not post their movements or activities outside the home on social media. 2-3 photos with discreet comments will be enough. If the child is no longer small, respect his personal space. You should not post photographs of a teenager on the Internet without his permission, and it is even more unnecessary to publish photographs of him at an earlier age, even if you find them quite funny.
What can harm your reputation?
It proceeds according to special rules. Particularly heated battles take place in political discussions. Each of us has own opinion on this or that issue, but not everyone is able to stand up for it with consistency. Many people find it difficult to restrain themselves, especially when they are sure that the interlocutor is wrong or poorly informed. However, even with such communication, maintain decorum. There are several rules that will allow you to defend your own point of view without spoiling the mood for yourself and others:
- do not troll people in the discussion, provoking negative emotions;
- do not blame or slander your interlocutor, this will only show your bad character;
- calmly argue your point of view;
- challenge your interlocutor’s opinion without getting personal;
- do not insult those arguing with you, they have the right to their own point of view.
If you understand that the discussion is beyond the bounds of decency, calmly explain to your interlocutor that you do not intend to continue communication on such a wave. There is no need to stoop to the level of a poorly behaved person, because the general discussion will be seen by hundreds of people on the Internet, among whom may be your good friends.
You should not correspond while drunk, so as not to say too much. After drinking alcohol, it is better not to look at social networks at all, so as not to later explain to your friends that yesterday’s stupid statuses were written not by you, but by five glasses of Martini. Please note that your inappropriate behavior may be witnessed by people with whom you intersect in real life: friends, relatives, bosses.
If offline life intersects with online
Make it a rule to decide important questions in real communication, especially if we're talking about about relationships with the opposite sex. Don't announce your breakup online. Someone once close to you undoubtedly deserves an explanation for what happened. Tell your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend about the reasons for your action.
After the first date with a virtual acquaintance, it is also better to immediately announce your decision. If you don’t plan to date a guy or girl any further, say so when you say goodbye. Be sure to thank them for the meeting and wish them a successful search for their other half. There is no need to make a person wait for messages or expect a meeting.
Meeting offline with virtual friends
Today people of all ages are interested in virtual dating on the Internet. Most people find it very attractive to communicate with the opposite sex while remaining at home in front of the monitor screen. But when correspondence goes beyond the usual online flirting, the question of meeting in real life arises. Communication via the Internet creates a deceptive feeling of intimacy. But in practice, virtual dating that spills over into offline mode often turns into crime stories. Therefore, do not rush to invite a new friend home. Choose crowded places where you will feel safe.
The simple rules given here will allow you to successfully communicate on social networks, creating a pleasant impression among your virtual acquaintances. Please note that careless statements on sensitive topics or naughty photos on the Internet can cause permanent damage to your business reputation. Remember that in addition to the rules of etiquette, there are rules of law. Avoid information that could be perceived as promoting violence or inciting unrest.
Majority modern people registered on social networks. The most common social networks are Odnoklassniki and Vkontakte. Every day, millions of users visit their pages to find out news and communicate with each other.
Differences from normal communication
Below are a few points that explain the difference between communication on social networks and regular communication:
Expectation. If during a normal conversation you expect an instant answer to your question, then on social networks you can wait several hours, or even days. Trivial questions: “How are you?”, “Where are you now?”, “How did you pass the exam?” and others may wait a very long time for an answer.
Of course, both Odnoklassniki and Vkontakte provide the ability to communicate through chats, but still the waiting time can be very long. After all, one of the interlocutors may move away from the PC, there will be a power outage or the Internet will crash;
Uncertainty. When our question is not answered, we can spend hours wondering why this is happening. For example, you wrote to the girl you like that she is beautiful, but she remains silent. Maybe she was offended, or maybe she just walked away from the computer - you can’t know for sure. We have to guess;
Full of meaning. When we are through social networks, we are unable to convey the full meaning transmitted information, since we do not have the opportunity to show our emotions through facial expressions, gestures, and intonation. Communication with ordinary words and emoticons significantly impoverishes our capabilities;
Empathy, empathy. In direct communication, we see whether the interlocutor is ready to talk to us or not. On social networks we communicate with an imaginary phantom, imagining the interlocutor as we benefit from it. this moment time. Of course, you can use a video call, but not everyone resorts to this and not so often.
What should I do?
Considering all of the above, it is safe to say that you should not be persistent when communicating on social networks. If you are not answered right away, stop trying to contact your interlocutor again. It may well be that he is busy or simply does not want to communicate at the moment.
Try to clearly formulate your thoughts, write what you want to convey, using emoticons and exclamation marks. Don't be upset if you don't get an answer to your question right away. We are living people and we don’t always sit in front of the computer, waiting for the next message to arrive.
How to communicate correctly on social networks
There are a few general rules, following which, you can benefit from communication on Odnoklassniki and Vkontakte:
If you want communication to take place in the form of a dialogue, not only read messages, but also ask questions, express your opinion;
If the interlocutor answers your questions briefly “no” or “yes”, ask him complex issue, which must be answered with a proposal. If the same communication continues, without succinct explanations on his part, stop the dialogue, since the other party is not interested in it;
Under no circumstances should you immerse your interlocutor in your problems. You don’t like it when you are loaded, so act the same way towards others;
Do not offend your interlocutor with rude words. In general, try not to use bad words, do not speak in a negative way. This will quickly lead to a loss of interest in you as an interlocutor.
Social networks used for dating and communication are increasingly becoming popular among children and teenagers, adults and older people; What is it that attracts people to virtual communication and is there any harm and addiction to social networks of dating and communication.
Social networks on the Internet, in terms of the number of their participants, can be compared with the population of an entire country, these large-scale use of social networks force many branches of science to conduct research and observation: psychology, sociology, philosophy, economics, etc., in order to determine the influence of social networks on humans; his personal, psychological and emotional development and deviations from the norm; on the quality of life in general and psychopathological changes in personality.
Social networks in Russia and the world
In the daily developing Internet, Russian social networks, along with global networks, began to occupy high ratings, having a huge attendance of people of different ages and social classes.However, according to independent research, regular visitors to social networks on the RuNet are, to one degree or another, people who are dissatisfied with life and communication in reality, with weak and poor-quality time structuring, including those who have little normal pastime and enjoyable activities, as well as teenagers and people who are psychologically and emotionally immature.
Of course, in social networks in Russia there are many visitors running targeted, professional or semi-professional pages, but their motivation is clear, they need a large audience, for certain social, professional, economic and political purposes...
Psychology of Social Networks
Psychology of Social Networks is that a person, communicating and interacting online, seems to be able to safely and freely satisfy many of his natural, biological, psychological and emotional desires and needs.
Social dating networks
Many people use social networks for dating When trying to find friends and loved ones to establish close relationships, real meetings and real relationships often occur. However, correspondence, audio and video chats are usually started by people from different cities and even regions, which can complicate the desired meeting and continuation of relationships in real life.
Dating on social networks very often leads people into psychological dead ends, frequent failure to meet expectations, outright lies and exaggeration of the participants in the acquaintance, and sometimes direct fraud in virtual relationships, leads to despair, depression, psychological and emotional suffering.
Social networks for communication
Social networks for communication and created, but constant communication on social networks should not replace normal communication in reality.Only real communication and interaction can satisfy human biological needs; true friendship and love, true close relationships cannot be conceived on social networks. In them, you can maintain existing relationships due to the impossibility of a real meeting.
The harm of social networks
Everything is good in moderation, including communication on social networks, but excessive hanging out and spending time on them brings harm to a person, both on the mental and physical level.
The harm of social networks can become quite noticeable if you stay and communicate online for too long. This can lead to various psychophysiological problems: stress, depression and neuroses; disorders in personality and social development; violations of normal perception of reality and building interpersonal relationships.
The benefits of social networks
Research shows that there are benefits of social networks. Sometimes, it is when communicating on social networks that a person who has not learned to communicate, who is timid and indecisive, who has many complexes, etc., can open up, feel like a full-fledged, creative person and satisfy some psychological needs by communicating on a social network.
However, one should not be deluded, although there is a benefit from a social network, it is insignificant, and is more suitable for teenagers during puberty than for mature people who know how to communicate in reality.
One way or another, there is no need to replace real communication, interaction, acquaintances, friendship and love with virtual, pseudo-real social contacts.
Social media addiction
With prolonged and constant use of networks, virtual communication to the detriment of real, it appears social media addiction. Replacing normal and natural human contacts, including, in addition to verbal (verbal) interaction and exchange of texts and media files, non-verbal communication, using ordinary senses: touch, smell, taste; With the help of facial expressions and gestures, posture and bodily manifestations, people often on social networks become like “social disabled people”, with SMS-based, so to speak, thinking. Those. they cannot establish normal contacts, which are so necessary for establishing real, personal, family, and even working relationships; they often cannot find a common language and do not understand each other.The inability to perceive another person with the help of all innate senses, including all representative, sensory systems of a person, leads to the inability to find a suitable partner, including for family relationships and for business.
A person dependent on social networks and virtual communication, even with the possible implementation of real work and educational activities, becoming completely unsuitable for normal close relationships, both in love and in friendship. For a person dependent on social networks, not only thinking and concepts, but also feelings and emotions are replaced; many become robotic, one might say programmed zombie people, who are not responsible for their life and destiny, living according to a certain life scenario.
This, modern addiction from social networks makes people unhappy, suffering from the inability to love and fall in love, make friends and interact with business partners, build harmonious, close relationships and receive from life the real joy of being and true communication with each other.